They will keep coming backto your spirit, your softness, your giving hands—as long as you let them. But you were never meant to be the onewho saves e
They will keep coming back
to your spirit, your softness, your giving hands—
as long as you let them.
But you were never meant to be the one
who saves everyone
while drowning quietly in your own dry well.
🌿 The Central Healing Truth:
You betray yourself each time you say “yes” when your soul is whispering “no.”
That’s not generosity.
That’s sacrifice on an altar no one even tends to.
🪞 Notes from the Body, the Bones, the Ancestors:
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When you give more than you have,
you teach people that your depletion is acceptable. -
When you silence your “no,”
they hear it as a “yes” and call it love. -
Some will keep coming to take until the well is bone-dry—
then blame you for not having anything left. -
Your nervous system knows the truth.
That ache in your chest? That tension in your shoulders?
That’s the spirit screaming: “Please come back to me.” -
Ancestral wisdom didn’t survive the fire just for you to burn out for people who don’t even bring water.
✊🏾 Survivor Affirmations
I am not here to bleed for people who won’t bandage me.
My “no” is sacred—it doesn’t need to be explained or softened.
I will not trade my peace for other people’s comfort.
My well is mine. And I deserve to drink first.
I don’t have to keep teaching people that I’m enough—I already am.
When I honor my own needs, I honor my survival.
I don’t have to shrink to be worthy of care.
💧 Truth to Carry with You
You are not selfish for keeping your water.
You are not wrong for resting, refusing, or resetting your boundaries.
The ones who get angry when you stop over giving
were only loyal to your exhaustion.
But you are rebuilding now—
with grace, with grit, with grown-woman truth.
You are worthy of love that doesn’t drain you.
You are worthy of joy that doesn’t leave you hollow.
And you are allowed to protect your well
like the sacred source it is.
Let the next pour be for you.
Let the next “yes” include you.
Let the healing begin with staying full.
