How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more homes for the unhoused, affordable homes
How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more homes for the unhoused, affordable homes for working class folks, domestic violence shelters, rape crisis centers, or schools that protect children from school shooters?
Across the world, some schools, airports, and workplaces are beginning to introduce new restroom designs. Instead of the traditional “Men” and “Women” signs, these may be:
Single-occupancy restrooms labeled “All Gender” (anyone can use, one person at a time). (works for me)
Multi-stall, mixed-sex facilities with private, floor-to-ceiling stalls and a shared handwashing area.
These changes are meant to expand access and reduce conflict about who belongs where. But anytime our public spaces change, it’s natural — and wise — to pause and ask questions.
Now the current strategy is the same as it always has been. Mock, ridicule and dismiss the concerns of women and girls. Even women and girls enjoy joining in like they don’t go to the restroom in pairs and aren’t terrified to walk alone at night too; and they aren’t terrified of other women and girls.
Questions You May Want to Consider AND Present to Your Political Representatives
Safety & Security
How will my safety be protected if I’m in a shared washroom area with strangers, including men?
Will there be security staff nearby, cameras in the common areas, or emergency call buttons if something goes wrong?
Where will cameras be placed — at entrances only, or inside handwashing areas too?
Privacy
Newly proposed
Do the stalls lock securely from the inside?
Are the stalls fully private, floor-to-ceiling, or do they still have gaps?
Will I feel comfortable washing my hands or adjusting my appearance in a mixed space?
Children
Am I comfortable sending my child alone into these new restroom designs?
If my child is young, can I accompany them safely without breaking rules?
How will schools supervise or protect children in these new spaces?
Elders & People with Disabilities
Will caregivers still be allowed to accompany an elderly parent, spouse, or disabled person, regardless of gender? Is that safe for everyone?
Are there “family restrooms” or companion restrooms available for those who need extra help?
Design & Oversight
Who makes the decisions about these facilities — local governments, schools, private companies?
What options are available if I don’t feel comfortable using a mixed restroom (for example, are single-user restrooms still nearby)?
How will concerns or incidents be handled if they occur?
Why Your Concerns Matter
This is what we currently have in the US
It’s important to remember: your questions are valid.
Public facilities are built for everyone. Women, parents, and caregivers have every right to think about privacy, security, and comfort — and to plan ahead.
Change is happening, but safety planning is not paranoia. It’s wisdom.
Moving Forward
Ask your school, workplace, or local government what their policies are.
Visit facilities in advance so you know what to expect.
Talk openly with your children and elders so they feel prepared.
Advocate for family restrooms, secure stall locks, and clear safety measures.
A final note:
These are critical issues, particularly for women because we tend to need to visit restrooms more often than males. We require safe spaces. If
it wasn’t so important, there wouldn’t be tension, mocking, and ridicule. People who are doing all this fighting against us recognize how important it is too.
If it isn’t such a big deal as they claim, then prove it.
Stop fighting.
Stop fighting against what nearly every woman around the globe is fight for. Safety. Privacy. Dignity. and Respect….. in a male dominated world.
Dear Women, Don’t let people who don’t share your responsibilities — for children, elders, or your own peace of mind — talk you out of asking these questions. Forward-thinking and safety planning means preparing, not ignoring. If something goes wrong, they blame women no matter what anyway.
*Keep in mind that some of the women with the loudest voices will never have to be concerned about this issue. Their privileges are different than yours.
Women and children have no obligation to be security for a world that has never been reliable security us.