[WeSurviveAbuse.com] There is a quiet war being waged on selfhood.A thousand little whispers telling women—and especially Black women, Indigenous w
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
There is a quiet war being waged on selfhood.
A thousand little whispers telling women—and especially Black women, Indigenous women, and other women of color—that our worth lies in how well we serve others, how well we shape-shift, silence, and sacrifice.
Be agreeable.
Be adaptable.
Be less.
Be for them.
We are pressured to betray our own instincts. Our joys. Our culture. Our voice. Our boundaries.
And all for what? To keep the peace? To make others more comfortable? To be seen as “good,” “safe,” “easy to work with,” or “not too much”?
Strangely enough, for many of us, this message came from home. From our families. Giving grace, it was the only way that they could survive….maybe.
But, this is not peace.
This is erasure dressed in approval.
We’ve watched how trends, causes, and even liberation movements center the same people—while using our language, our stories, and our bodies. We are asked to show up and show out, but never for ourselves.
We are expected to abandon our truths, our ancestors, our lived wisdom—all so someone else can feel secure in their version of the world.
But we were not born to be blank slates.
We were not created to vanish in someone else’s reflection.
We are whole.
We are sacred.
We are not a resource to be mined, styled, or silenced.
Resisting this pressure is a radical act of remembrance.
It’s honoring the God within.
It’s protecting the parts of us that colonization, patriarchy, and anti-Blackness tried to crush.
To every woman reading this: You do not have to yield yourself into extinction.
You can rest.
You can rage.
You can rise.
You deserve to live for you, not for the feelings, needs, or trends of the world around you.
Your spirit was not meant to be worn thin just to pad someone else’s comfort.
We are allowed to be inconvenient.
We are allowed to be different.
We are allowed to be free.
🔔 Join the conversation. How have you felt pressured to abandon yourself? What helps you hold onto your truth? Share your thoughts at WeSurviveAbuse.com. Your voice matters here.
