Safe Boundaried Spaces

“It was ‘that’ kind of man who harmed you, not this kind.” But how can we prevent harm in the future? What did we miss? What went wrong? The burden …

You know, none of these problems are new. The problem has always been getting the funding to serve everyone who needs safety. When we talk about domestic violence, sexual assault, …

I did not arrive at female boundaries because I assumed every male was dangerous. I arrived there because I knew what society does to women and girls when the dangerous …

At first glance, the story of Marcia Johnson can produce a very simple conclusion. A nonprofit dedicated to helping poor people posted Samuel Scott’s $5,000 bail after he had been …

There are cases that remind us why understanding domestic violence cannot be limited to advocates, shelter workers, police officers, or women who have already lived through it. Everybody needs to …

Some ideas about sexual violence have been around so long that people repeat them without recognizing what they are. A woman says she was drinking before an assault, and somebody …

Another man has been arrested after an alleged sexual assault inside a women’s locker room. I could spend this entire article discussing that particular case. I won’t. I can link …

Which facts may another person deliberately falsify while seeking someone’s romantic or sexual consent, and at what point does society stop treating deception as clever self-presentation and start recognizing the …

Institutions know how to write beautiful promises. “We take all reports seriously.” “Your safety is our priority.” “We are committed to a safe environment.” There are webpages. Brochures. Policies. Awareness …

In a 2023 BBC Newsnight interview, Mel B was asked whether she herself would call police to report domestic abuse. She said she would not, explaining: “I wouldn’t, because I …