Safe Boundaried Spaces

  updated from March 23 2025 There is a familiar pattern in history. Women organize. Women speak. Women document harm. Women build shelters, create opportunities, change laws, and fight for …

Updated from June 8, 2025 No matter the group of men who disregard female humanity—who they like, who they don’t like, what they like- the tactics of misogynistic males remain …

There is a conversation we need to have about loneliness, dating, sex, companionship and rejection. A grown one. Because loneliness is real. Wanting love is real. Wanting somebody to come …

A man wanting access to a woman does not create a moral question for the woman. She can simply decline. At least we are getting closer to telling the truth …

updated from July 31, 2025 The Space Was Never the Argument. The Entitlement Was. Survivor Affirmation Every woman deserves a space that stays hers. Not conditional. Not negotiable. Not something …

updated from May 1 2025 UPDATE: I Learned More About Kitty Genovese I originally published this post in May 2025. At the time, I repeated a version of the Kitty …

 Harm does not always arrive announcing itself as hatred. Sometimes it comes smiling, agreeing with 80 percent of what you say, and spending the remaining 20 percent figuring out exactly …

Someone on X.com said these wise words: One of patriarchy’s hidden rules is that men have a right to feel good about themselves. The golden rule for women is that …

updated from June 3 2025 Let’s name this for what it is: When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressing concerns about our safety, they are …

Submission is not always announced by the word “submit.” Sometimes submission arrives dressed in the moral vocabulary of its era. Yesterday it might have been obey your husband. Today it might …