Safe Boundaried Spaces

updated from December 12, 2023 Black girls have spent generations learning how to endure unfairness. They deserve a generation of adults determined to stop it. I was not surprised when …

updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or …

 They were in the kitchen. It was a small, minor disagreement, but he was frustrated and didn’t like her tone. He hit her. She was shocked; there was blood. That’s …

If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking …

 updated from Sep 28, 2025  Survival is one type of strength. Healing is another. We heal the things we never should have had to survive in the first place.  Respect …

Why women’s refusal, independence, and desire for safety are so often treated as offenses against men. There is something deeply troubling about a man hearing a woman say no and …

When a woman asks for safety, listen to the danger she is describing before you begin searching for something wrong with her character. We absolutely must reflect on how we …

The crime was the perpetrator’s choice, not the victim’s failure to behave perfectly. There is something deeply troubling about the way we expect women and girls to behave after sexual …

What happens when a generation of girls is expected to learn alongside boys who are being taught to regard them as lesser human beings? What female teachers are describing deserves …

Why deliberately watching someone during private moments deserves to be taken seriously, even when there is no camera, no physical contact, and no recording. A woman is getting ready for …