So When Are You Going Call Out This Violence?

This is standard commentary from these protestors here. It is never about “unity” or “love” or “solidarity”.

For 10 years…..

You managed not to see any of the disgusting, sewer level name-calling of women.

You managed not to see any of the physical attacks on mostly adults in their senior years at the hands of raging men in their younger years?  Assaults on elderly pioneering gay rights activists?

None of the death threats?

You chose to say….nothing?

Oh wait. You did call women “hateful”, “b*tc#hes”, and some sewer rat words simply because we stood up for our hard fought for sex based rights.

So there’s that.

There’s something deeply vile, sick, and disturbed in the way society responds to violence and threats against women.

It’s not just the harm itself—though that would be enough.

It’s the silence that follows when the misogyny, the name-calling, the death threats, and the abuse come from someone people like.

From someone people agree with.
From someone who’s on the “right” side—of politics, of movements, of religion, of culture.

That silence? That willful ignorance?
That’s not neutrality. (“I see both sides”……of violence and abuse? How?)
That’s complicity.

When women are harmed by someone outside the group, everyone wants to speak.
When it’s “them,” we get outrage.
When it’s a stranger or someone politically expendable, everyone’s a feminist. Everyone’s an advocate or an activist.

But let that abuse come from a man who’s useful, powerful, or charismatic—
and suddenly it’s:

• “Well, no one’s perfect.”

• “Let’s not be divisive.”

• “He’s done a lot of good work.”

• “She’s just bitter.”

• “It’s not that serious.”

• “Pick a different struggle” (The one they approve of course)

That’s not allyship. That’s strategic silence.

Let’s name this for what it is:

• Selective Outrage – Only caring about abuse when it fits neatly into your narrative.

• Performative Allyship – Claiming to support women until the cost is too high.

• Toxic Tribalism – Protecting your side’s abusers because they’re “better” than the other side’s, according to you.

• Gendered Gaslighting – Blaming women for the abuse we endure or doubting our danger because it doesn’t look convenient.

• Misogynistic Complicity – Staying silent while harm is done in front of you. That silence is a choice. That silence is harm.

Ask yourself:

• Why is it so easy to ignore death threats and harassment against women online and in real life—when the man doing it shares your values?

• Why are women told to be quiet for “the greater good” when the harm is coming from inside your belief system?

• Why are we still in a world where girls are told to sit next to predators, smile, and be polite for the sake of the group’s comfort?

• And why does no one ever stop and ask men to do anything for “the greater good”? Or STOP doing a few things?

This is what happens in trafficking.
This is what happens in abusive homes.
This is what happens in silencing faith communities and broken school systems.

And now? It’s happening everywhere. In public. In movements. In ideologies. In belief systems. On stages. On screens.

This society would rather mock, pathologize, and ridicule the women who speak the truth about violence than confront the men who cause it.

Instead of asking why so many women are traumatized, they ask:

“What’s wrong with her?”
“Why is she so sensitive?”
“Why is she still talking about it?”

But the real question is:

What’s wrong with men who can’t be kind and nonviolent toward the vulnerable?
What’s wrong with the people who refuse to hold them accountable?
What’s wrong with a society that would rather defend its favorite men than protect its most vulnerable women and girls?

🌿 At WeSurviveAbuse.com, we don’t stay quiet when it’s inconvenient.
We don’t base our advocacy on popularity polls.
We don’t protect predators because they post the right slogans.

🗣️ If your feminism stops where your favorite man begins—
It’s not feminism. It’s favoritism towards males. And it is killing us.

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