“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post slogans and
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.
Don’t post slogans and hashtags—move like you mean it.
Too many people claim to be “on the side of women.”
They claim they’re not misogynistic.
They claim they’re not sexist.
They say, “I would never…”
They say, “I support you…”
But then they mock us.
Mock our trauma.
Roll their eyes when we speak truth.
Change the subject when it gets uncomfortable.
Call us too angry, too sensitive, too damaged.
The truth is, a large number of women have experienced trauma.
More than people want to admit.
It’s baked into our lives. Our girlhoods. Our workplaces. Our homes.
But the world demands that we live as if we have not been harmed.
Smile, be polite, be sexy, be strong—but never broken.
We are told to move through life as if we aren’t in danger.
As if predators aren’t lurking.
As if we don’t carry survival stories in our bones.
To do otherwise?
To act cautious?
To speak out?
To protect our daughters?
To say “no”—or “not him”—or “not here”?
That displeases men. That displeases society.
So what happens when we don’t play along?
We’re mocked.
We’re pathologized.We’re called bitter.
We’re called man-haters.
We’re accused of “making it all about trauma.”
They say something must be wrong with us.
But let’s tell the truth:
Something is wrong with males who cannot be kind and nonviolent toward the vulnerable.
Something is wrong with those who refuse to listen to the least protected among us.
Something is wrong with a society that mocks the wounded and shelters the ones who harm them.
And no, you don’t get to excuse it.
You don’t get to call yourself an ally while laughing at abused women on stage, online, or in the group chat.
You don’t get to say you care about women and then stay silent when we’re under attack.
You don’t get to post “believe women” on Monday and spend the rest of the week discrediting us because we didn’t speak the way you liked.
You are not in our corner if you demand that we be quiet.
You are not in our corner if you only protect the women you personally like.
You are not in our corner if you expect us to behave as if we are not in danger in a world where we very much still are.
🌿 At WeSurviveAbuse.com, we believe that being in a woman’s corner means fighting when it counts.
It means confronting uncomfortable truths.
It means protecting girls before predators get to them.
It means listening to the wounded instead of mocking them.
It means building something better—not just pretending to.
🗣️ If you are in our corner—fight like it.
If you are not—step aside. We’ve survived and been victorious without you before.
“I am tired of being pushed around.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
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