Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.For the ones grieving the loss of community, connection, or even family: You are not w
Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.
For the ones grieving the loss of community, connection, or even family:
You are not wrong for disconnecting from people who defend someone who hurt, harmed, or traumatized you.
You are not overreacting.
You are not being dramatic.
You are not required to make peace with betrayal just to keep the peace.
Some people will say:
“Maybe they didn’t mean it.”
“Everyone deserves a second chance.”
“Just let it go—it’s been a while.”
But what they’re really saying is:
“Your pain makes us uncomfortable.”
“Your boundaries inconvenience us.”
“We’d rather center the abuser than deal with the truth.”
Let them say what they will.
Because the minute someone makes it their job to protect the person who harmed you—
they are no longer safe to protect you.
And you do not owe access, closeness, or emotional labor to people who choose neutrality in the face of your pain.
You are not petty.
You are not unforgiving.
You are practicing self-protection.
And that is sacred.
You can bless people and still block them.
You can wish them healing—and walk away.
You can love yourself enough to say:
“If you stand with the one who hurt me, you can’t sit with me.”
That’s not bitterness.
That’s clarity.
That’s wisdom.
That’s what it means to survive with your soul intact.
— WeSurviveAbuse.com
✨ Affirmations for Walking Away from Those Who Defend Harm ✨
I have the right to disconnect from anyone who protects my pain instead of protecting me.
I do not explain or justify my boundaries to those who chose to excuse harm.
Walking away from betrayal is not weakness—it is wisdom.
I will not shrink myself to stay connected to those who disregard my truth.
I am loyal to my healing, not to those who defend the people who wounded me.
