Abuse

🔇 Respectable-Silencing Is Still Silencing And it’s one of the most dangerous kinds. Some people won’t yell over you.They won’t insult you.They won’t throw slurs. They’ll just gently, subtly, consistently …

🛡️ Survival Required Specificity We don’t survive by blending in.We survive by knowing who we are,what harmed us,and what helps us heal. Oppressive systems thrive on confusion.They pressure us to …

We are often told that broad categories are a sign of unity.That we should all just fall under one banner: “Women.” “People of color.” “Survivors.” “Victims.” “Marginalized communities.” But general …

In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things: 🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems.🟩 Center the most marginalized.🟩 Practice accountability and restorative justice. And yet—when someone is raped, abused, …

We’re often told:“If you just speak up…”“If you leave…”“If you fight back…”“If you call the police…”“If you file a report…” …then you’ll be safe.You’ll be believed.You’ll be protected. But for …

Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong just for standing in your own power. You say no.You speak up.You leave.You choose peace.You protect yourself. …

There is a kind of violence that doesn’t leave bruises.A kind that hides behind charm, culture, tradition, “community.”A kind that preys on the idea that Black women are unbreakable. “Unrapeable”. …

Too many people overlook this. We want to believe that people are better than what they show us. But I urge you today:Listen—really listen—to people who empathize with abusive people. …

When a woman living in a rural area makes the courageous decision to seek help, she’s not just up against her abuser—she’s up against an entire system that often isn’t …

Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, let’s put the blame where it belongs.  Because too many conversations around abuse and harm still start …