Assault

When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say: “Why didn’t you leave?” “How could you …

He Did the Harm. They Held the Door. Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you. It’s the people who stay quiet. It’s the family who says,“Don’t bring that …

When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, breaking down their resistance. But there’s another form …

Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Survivors for over 30 years, …

There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true. Some of you were children, trying to survive another day in a house …

Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Mocked. Ignored.And that silence is not neutral—it’s violent. It …

(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth) You’ve left the relationship.You’ve named what happened. Maybe you’ve even started to heal.But some days… the voice still creeps in: “You should’ve known.”“You …

Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured against how many white men got away with it.That is …