Loving Safely

When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That belief is not just a red flag. It …

1. They Center Their Comfort Over Your Safety If your boundary causes them to feel uncomfortable, they try to make you feel guilty for protecting yourself. They’re not checking on …

You finally speak up.You say, “I can’t do that.”You say, “I don’t feel safe.”You say, “That’s not okay with me.” And suddenly… it’s like you broke some secret law.People get …

Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash—not just from strangers, but from people you once trusted with your heart. What no one tells you is …

When you begin to heal, grow, or protect yourself, one of the first things you’ll notice is how violently unnecessary your boundaries feel to the people who once benefited from …

On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and get involved in the conflict …

  You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Walking away? Hate.Choosing peace over performance? Hate. We’ve …

Some men hear “no” and immediately rewrite the story in their heads:“She just wants bad boys.”“She’ll date someone beneath her, but not me.”“She’s shallow, bitter, confused.” “She just doesn’t know …

A post for the Survivor who’s outgrowing relationships built on their silence, sacrifice, and self-erasure There’s a version of you they liked better. The one who didn’t speak up.The one …