RED FLAGS

Someone is telling on themselves……. In Jim Crow America, Black people—especially Black women and girls—were forbidden from having boundaries: A Black woman couldn’t say no to a white man’s advances …

Some patterns are so familiar that our bodies recognize them before our mouths can explain them. A room gets quiet. A person says, “That never happened.” A politician says, “It …

Living in the West is not what makes a woman safe. Privacy is not modesty theater. It is part of bodily safety. It is shield. We do not give that …

updated from November 25, 2025 Staying informed is an act of power. Because once you see how the system works, you stop begging for fairness and start demanding change. Some …

I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting “bidirectional violence” on dead women that they didn’t know. Only she …

Too many women have called a hotline or support number that I was working for where this behavior was a part of her story.  Only now they were in serious …

DARVO is a pattern some harmful people use when they are confronted. It stands for: DenyThey deny what happened. AttackThey attack the person who spoke up. Reverse Victim and OffenderThey …

“Being asked to ignore degradation is not an invitation to be strong. It is an invitation to disappear. And you were never meant to disappear.” For Survivors, language is never …

  updated from 2/5/25 I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago. I don’t think I will ever forget she and her daughter’s story. During a season …

There is language that has been troubling my soul. As a Womanist historian, I know that misinformation is not just an error; it is a weapon used to disarm the …