RED FLAGS

Institutions know how to write beautiful promises. “We take all reports seriously.” “Your safety is our priority.” “We are committed to a safe environment.” There are webpages. Brochures. Policies. Awareness …

Your name is one of the first things you learn belongs to you. That is exactly why controlling it can carry so much power. Sometimes an abusive person doesn’t merely …

Sometimes abuse announces itself with a threat. Sometimes it starts with a word. A degrading name can be tossed out so casually that everybody is expected to move along. But …

Some people try to control women by frightening us. Others discover they can control a room by humiliating us. Humiliation can look like “joking,” teasing, embarrassing you in public, exposing …

Abuse does not always begin with a bruise. Sometimes it begins with humiliation. Sometimes it reaches for your name. In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, Tonya GJ …

  There is something missing from a great deal of our modern conversation about men, women, loneliness, relationships, and belonging. We rarely acknowledge just how much access to women’s presence …

The research literature usually calls it nonconsensual condom removal (NCCR): removing a condom before or during sex without the other person’s consent. Researchers generally treat it as a violation of …

Listening tells you so much about where we really are as a society. A WNBA player spoke about her experience with sexual violence. The comments were not kind. There is …

  There are things we understand perfectly well until sexual violence enters the conversation. We understand vulnerability perfectly well when property is involved   Suppose someone gets drunk at a …

There is a question people continue to ask victims of sexual violence: Why didn’t you go to the police? I have worked hotlines. I have responded to women who were …