Safeguarding

1. They Center Their Comfort Over Your Safety If your boundary causes them to feel uncomfortable, they try to make you feel guilty for protecting yourself. They’re not checking on …

On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and get involved in the conflict …

  You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Walking away? Hate.Choosing peace over performance? Hate. We’ve …

Let’s begin here:You are not required to play a role in someone else’s story just because they’ve written you into it.Not as the forgiving one.Not as the supportive and understanding …

Let’s tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors don’t.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More erasure. As someone who served for years as a court …

Let’s talk about the men who say: “I don’t get involved in drama.”“That’s between them.”“Not all men are like that.”“I’d never do that, but I’m not about to check another …

There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it. We’re told:“If someone was really that bad, wouldn’t we know?”“If they …

Aging should not mean surrendering safety.Growing older should not mean losing the right to be heard, respected, or protected. And yet—Too many elder women are dismissed, mocked, or ignored when …

When it comes to women and girls, invasion looks like: Forcing male presence into spaces where women go to breathe, to heal, to be safe without question. Overriding the will …

They say they care about equality.They say they believe in fairness.They say they’re here for liberation. But watch when they speak up—and who they speak for. Because when girls are …