Self Love

1. The Distortion of Cooper’s Vision Some have taken Cooper’s line to mean that Black women must always be the “gateway,” carrying everyone else on their backs. That it’s our …

She told a friend once: “The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.” Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just upset.” But she remembered …

There was another time I learned just how selective feminism and women’s work can be. After 30 plus years of service, there are too many.  That time when writer and …

People tend to treat Black women like our empathy is a faucet that you can turn on and off at will. When it doesn’t work they actually complain like we …

One of life’s hardest lessons is this: you cannot reason with people who treat facts and reality as a personal attack. No matter how carefully you explain, no matter how …

Dear women, let’s get this straight: no man’s negative voice deserves rent-free space in your mind. Too many men have tried to shrink us with words: You’re not that special. …

It isn’t enough to expose the myths about unkind men pretending to be protectors. Survivors, women, and communities also need to know what real protection looks like. Protection isn’t about …

Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to repeat the pattern—because abuse is …

Hollywood movies and the biased media have taught us well. Too well. One of the most dangerous myths we carry is the belief that men who are unkind, rude, or …

In recent years, we’ve seen debates play out over whether actors—or anyone in the public eye—should agree to certain scenes, roles, or performances. Sometimes, when an actor says “No, I …