Violation

How to Stay Safe When You’re Judged Instead of Believed In the quiet corners of our communities, there are Survivors who never got justice—not because there wasn’t harm, but because …

If you’ve ever had to convince someone that what hurt you was actually wrong… this is for you. Some people don’t deny that harm happened.They just go straight to justifying …

In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things: 🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems.🟩 Center the most marginalized.🟩 Practice accountability and restorative justice. And yet—when someone is raped, abused, …

We’re often told:“If you just speak up…”“If you leave…”“If you fight back…”“If you call the police…”“If you file a report…” …then you’ll be safe.You’ll be believed.You’ll be protected. But for …

In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind: 👉🏾 Victims have a right to safety. Not imagined safety.Not theoretical safety.Not “community-accountability-if-everyone-agrees” safety. …

WARNING TO THE LOVING, THE NURTURING, THE HEALERS: The systems we fight do not always come with burning crosses or slurs. Sometimes, they show up as funding proposals, friendly slogans, …

(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves) Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, one moment of silence—to tell you who a person really …

Too many people overlook this. We want to believe that people are better than what they show us. But I urge you today:Listen—really listen—to people who empathize with abusive people. …

We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? Pride that silences the harmed to shield the …

My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rural areas.  Rural women experiencing domestic violence face unique, compounded challenges—yet policy responses rarely account …