🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women

Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women." We’ve heard it too many times

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Please stop telling Survivors that “men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women.”

We’ve heard it too many times. We’ve heard it from people who mean well, and we’ve heard it from people trying to gaslight us.

But here’s the truth:
Men have gone through great lengths—carefully, deliberately, and repeatedly—to gain access to women and girls in order to abuse us.

They’ve gone to school.
They’ve earned degrees.
They’ve infiltrated sacred spaces.
They’ve put on collars, badges, and uniforms.
They’ve posed as helpers, healers, lovers, feminists, and allies.

They’ve gone as far as they needed to go—because abuse is not about desire. It’s about control. It’s about access. It’s about entitlement.

If you still believe that “a man wouldn’t go that far”…
Let this list be your wake-up call.

🕳️ 50 Roles Men Have Used to Gain Access to Women for Abuse

Priest
Pastor
Youth Minister
Police Officer
Teacher
Principal
Coach
Guidance Counselor
Foster Parent
Stepfather
Uncle
Father
Boyfriend
Social Worker
Therapist
School Bus Driver
Camp Counselor
Correctional Officer
GYN/OB
Surgeon
Nurse
Massage Therapist
Dentist
Personal Trainer
Photographer
Modeling Scout
Talent Agent
Film Director
Music Producer
Celebrity
Billionaire Philanthropist
University Professor
Department Chair
Roommate
Co-worker
Boss
Uber Driver
Food Delivery Person
Home Repairman
Janitor
Security Guard
Shelter Volunteer
Nonprofit Leader
Domestic Violence Advocate (yes, even here)
Trans Rights Activist (some—not all, but yes, some)
Feminist Ally
Online “Safe Space” Moderator
OnlyFans/Adult Content Creator posing as a woman
Influencer or YouTuber
Stranger pretending to be someone else online (catfish)

The point is this:

Predators go wherever the access is easiest.
They go wherever women’s boundaries are weakest.
They go wherever they can hide in plain sight.

And yes, some of them absolutely do dress up, perform, or present themselves in any way they need to if it means gaining unfiltered access to women and children’s spaces, bodies, and trust.

Survivors know this.
We’ve lived this.

And we will not be shamed, silenced, or dismissed for raising the alarm.

Because our safety comes first.
Not someone else’s costume.
Not someone else’s feelings.
Our safety. Period.