💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win

Let’s tell the truth:
This world wants women to be at war with each other.

Not over justice.
Not over safety.
But over aesthetics.

It’s no accident that we’re pitted against one another:

• Dark skin vs light

• Natural vs relaxed

• Big body vs small

• Loud vs quiet

• Modest vs sexy

• Young vs aging

These are not just beauty debates.
These are weapons of distraction.

And while we’re busy fighting for scraps of male approval, social acceptance, or platform visibility—
we are being distracted from our birthright:

✨ Power. Dignity. Community. Joy.

💥 The Setup

We are not imagining this.

There is a system—across cultures and generations—that whispers:
“Only one of you can win.
Only one of you gets to be safe.
Only one of you gets to be seen.”

So we start trying to outrun, outshine, out-soft, out-perform other women.
Not because we’re vain.
But because we were taught survival meant being chosen.

Let’s say it plain:
We are being played.

🧠 A Strategy That Works—for Them

They don’t need to keep us small when we do it to each other.
They don’t need to police us when we’ve been programmed to police ourselves.

Divide and conquer works just as well with contour and compliments
as it does with contracts and courtrooms.

And here’s the part too many fear to say out loud:

No matter how misogyny identifies—if it does not respect women, we are getting played.
Whether it wears a suit, waves a rainbow flag, holds a mic, or calls itself an ally—
if it seeks to control, diminish, or compete with womanhood, it is still misogyny.
And we do not owe it loyalty.

✨ What They Don’t Want Us to Know:

The moment we stop fighting for male attention,
the moment we stop tearing each other down,
we stop being manageable.
We stop being marketable.
We stop being divided.

Because when women choose solidarity over spectacle,
they lose control of the narrative—and we reclaim our power.

🛑 We Are Being Duped If We Believe:

• That putting another woman down makes us rise higher.

• That being “picked” is safety.

• That being exceptional will keep us from being erased.

• That performing palatability is power.

• That any man or system who wants us to be small could ever love us well.

That is the lie.
And we’ve paid for it in confidence, community, and sometimes…our lives.

🖤 But Here’s the Good News:

We can stop.
Right now.
We can say with our whole chest:

“I will not participate in my own oppression.”

I will not:

• Measure my worth by the visibility someone else allows me.

• Compete for attention that should be mine by birthright.

• Throw my sister under the bus just to ride in patriarchy’s passenger seat.

Because I deserve more.
And so does she.
And so do we.

🔥 Affirmation:

I reject the war they placed between us.
I will not be baited into rivalry with my own reflection.
I do not compete for crumbs when I come from women who built kingdoms from scratch.
No matter how oppression dresses up, I see it for what it is.
I am not a pawn.
I am a power.
And I walk in alignment with other women, not against them.
Because our unity is the threat they fear most.