Abuse

People keep acting like a man’s sexual identity is a character reference. They say things like: “He likes women.”“He has a girlfriend.”“He wouldn’t do that.” As if attraction is a …

There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way. Because this seems to be a truth everybody sees but is afraid to …

This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. Some are in prison. Some are in bondage in some …

This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written. James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in Baltimore at the …

There’s a phrase people love to say when conversations get uncomfortable: “I don’t see gender, race, sexuality, or identity. I treat everyone the same.” It sounds enlightened. It sounds fair. …

The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. A wealthy man is …

This is a tender area. Many people tense up the moment sexual violence and sexual orientation appear in the same conversation. The fear is understandable: historically, LGBTQ+ communities have endured …

The internet will have you believe something very simple and very cruel, and in my view, is rooted in misogyny: If younger people cut you off, it must be your …

People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime. Cyberstalking looks like: Following you from platform to platform, even after you block them Flooding your inbox with …

Some of us didn’t need a courtroom to tell us that digital harm is real. We felt it in our bones the moment someone used our name, our picture, or …