Assault

When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, breaking down their resistance. But there’s another form …

Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Survivors for over 30 years, …

There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true. Some of you were children, trying to survive another day in a house …

Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Mocked. Ignored.And that silence is not neutral—it’s violent. It …

(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth) You’ve left the relationship.You’ve named what happened. Maybe you’ve even started to heal.But some days… the voice still creeps in: “You should’ve known.”“You …

Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured against how many white men got away with it.That is …

Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness passed down through bloodlines poisoned by mistreatment …

Don’t Call It a Favor The nerve—the absolute gall—to act like you’re doing us a favor by ending discrimination. By “allowing” Black people, especially Black women, to access jobs, homes, …