DECEPTION

WARNING TO THE LOVING, THE NURTURING, THE HEALERS: The systems we fight do not always come with burning crosses or slurs. Sometimes, they show up as funding proposals, friendly slogans, …

(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves) Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, one moment of silence—to tell you who a person really …

10 Incredible Facts About Victoria Earle Matthews 1. She Was Born Enslaved and Rose to Lead Victoria Earle Matthews was born enslaved in Fort Valley, Georgia, in 1861. Despite this …

Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, let’s put the blame where it belongs.  Because too many conversations around abuse and harm still start …

“If your faith doesn’t let you cry, rage, rest, or leave the places that are killing you—it’s not faith. It’s control dressed in scripture.” Spiritual violence doesn’t always shout. It …

She wasn’t just expected to heal. She was expected to heal everyone around her too—without flinching, without resting, without breaking.” Why is it that when a Black woman begins her …

You don’t know which of the people around you are living in abusive situations.But they see you.They watch you.They hear you. They are listening—not just to what you say, but …

Let’s name it plain:Victim-blaming doesn’t protect anyone. It protects abusers. When people say: “Why didn’t she just leave?” “She must’ve done something.” “She’s just trying to ruin his life.” “Well, …

✦ by WeSurviveAbuse.com One of the most dangerous traits of an abuser is not just the harm they cause—but the belief that they should never have to answer for it. …

✦ by WeSurviveAbuse.com Not all control looks like yelling, threats, or bruises.Sometimes, it shows up in the words you’re allowed to use—or forbidden to say.Sometimes, it hides in tone policing, …