Loving Safely

And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com] Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics used in abusive relationships. It’s when someone shuts you down—emotionally, verbally, or physically—so they never have …

When Fast Turns to Fear: What We’re Not Talking About Enough They came on strong.Said all the right things.Made you feel seen, heard, adored.And before you had time to breathe, …

Since the dawn of time, women have been pushed, scolded, and lectured into bending their boundaries, reshaping their desires, and swallowing discomfort—just to become what every living, breathing man might …

Some truths are not too complex to understand—they’re just too inconvenient to admit. Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious little girl who would simply run up …

There is a lot going on in the world. But crimes against women—especially stalking, coercive control, and violence—don’t take time off. They don’t pause for elections, trends, or shifts in …

“But That’s Your Family…” There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to has broken your heart—not through …

Systems will tell you that you are safe.Systems will tell you they exist to protect you.But when danger comes, when violence shatters lives, when harm happens on their watch —systems …

Boundaries aren’t walls.They’re doors you open for love — and shut to harm. For too long, women, especially Black women, have been praised for how much we can endure.How much …

They don’t talk about how painful starting over can be.They don’t talk about how holy it is either. Sometimes it doesn’t look like courage.It looks like sitting on the floor …

When you’ve survived abuse — especially the kind that twists your reality, shames your feelings, or calls your truth a lie —self-trust doesn’t just come back overnight.It returns in fragments. …