Loving Safely

You were never too much.You were too awake. You noticed what others pretended not to see.You named what others stayed quiet about.You asked the questions that made liars uncomfortable.You felt …

They told you walking away meant you gave up.That you weren’t strong enough to “stick it out.”That you didn’t try hard enough, didn’t pray hard enough, didn’t love hard enough. …

There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they romanticize it. They call it “loyalty.”They call it “love.”They call it “the good times.” But what they’re really doing …

Let’s tell the truth today. Sometimes when people say they “miss you,”what they’re really saying is:“I miss the version of you that didn’t know what you know now.” They don’t …

You want to know how abusers thrive in families, churches, and communities?It’s not just what he does.It’s what you do for him. Every time you shame the Survivor instead of …

People don’t listen to women and children. Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital records, text messages, restraining orders, …

Survivor, you’ve carried so much. You’ve fought for healing, for hope, for wholeness—not just for yourself, but for others too. You’ve tried to pour love into places that had no …

Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, or aggression when they are confronted about their harmful behavior. Instead …

[WeSurviveAbuse.com] Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.” This is perpetrator fragility—when a man responds to being …

Truth: No, they are not.[WeSurviveAbuse.com] This one’s personal. This one’s painful. And this one gets repeated far too often—in whispers, on podcasts, in therapy offices, and even from people who …