Loving Safely

Truth is still in the business of setting people free. People often misunderstand what happens when a woman calls a domestic violence hotline or reaches out to an advocate. They …

One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is “My Man.” “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the original vocal artist (as …

I’m sorry. People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update. History doesn’t tell that story. It tells …

Before critique culture.Before hot takes. Before performance listening.Before everyone felt required to respond. Women told stories.And other women sat with them. Not to analyze.Not to correct.Not to diagnose.Not to “balance …

“All they know about is slavery” Do we? Or is that all you heard before you stopped listening so people stopped sharing with you? Because there is too much more. …

It requires wholeness, not performance. A feminism that includes Black women does not ask us to arrive as fragments—carefully edited, softened, or stripped of context. It does not demand that …

All women are not necessarily living the same patriarchal reality. This phrase comes up a lot in feminist discussions. It usually means: Sex-based oppression is older than racism Gender should …

The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. A wealthy man is …

I am growing in curves, not in straight lines. My journey bends like water and still arrives on time. We are not okay everyday….and that is okay. Have you ever …

To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking about spaces, and conversations around violence, abuse, and Survivors….but harm …