Male Victims and Allies

This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written. James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in Baltimore at the …

The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. A wealthy man is …

This is a tender area. Many people tense up the moment sexual violence and sexual orientation appear in the same conversation. The fear is understandable: historically, LGBTQ+ communities have endured …

Saying “Black woman” is not race discourse.It’s not divisive.It’s not inflammatory.It’s accuracy in the field of violence and abuse — a field that has avoided telling the truth for far …

  There are stories we rarely let breathe. The stories of Black men who were once Black boys — hurt, silenced, told to “man up,” told that pain was weakness, …

Patrick Swayze was more than a heartthrob. He was a force — a man who turned pain into rhythm, who moved through fire and somehow made it look like light. …

When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language. Too often, those who have been harmed or frightened are accused …

If the full extent of your “activism” against grooming is railing against age-gap relationships between older women and younger men, you might want to take another look at what you’re …

In too many parts of the world—and even in the minds of too many people—rape inside of marriage is still not fully recognized as a crime. But here’s the truth: …

Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. Their bodies were brutalized. Their cries were ignored. Laws designed …