RED FLAGS

Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Mocked. Ignored.And that silence is not neutral—it’s violent. It …

The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down If you’ve ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red flags but stayed …

Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first. Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees what happened,there is a quiet act of control: “Don’t …

Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And because they didn’t listen, you may have started …

Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured against how many white men got away with it.That is …

(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries) Do not listen to people online who speak from comfort, not from experience. If someone has you questioning whether it’s …

10 Future Faking Abuse Statements “I’m going to get help—just give me a little more time.”Used to delay accountability and stop the Survivor from leaving. “Let’s have a baby… that’ll …

Let’s talk about something a lot of Survivors don’t even know has a name—but once you see it, you can’t unsee it. It’s called future faking.And it’s one of the …