Safe Boundaried Spaces

(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs) If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitting me,”—you’re not alone. For so many …

But What Happens When You Stop? The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truth—because you’ve been told your full presence makes people uncomfortable.So you soften your words, dim your …

Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your values.They just learn to sound like they do—because it gets them something. Here’s what they’re really after: 1. To …

Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting himwhen he has shown he wouldn’t …

Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured against how many white men got away with it.That is …

(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries) Do not listen to people online who speak from comfort, not from experience. If someone has you questioning whether it’s …

Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other. Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics. It’s no accident that we’re pitted against one another: …

  Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control. On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, preferences, or cultural norms. But when …