Safe Boundaried Spaces

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your values.They just learn to sound like they do—because it gets them something. Here’s what they’re really after: 1. To …

Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting himwhen he has shown he wouldn’t …

Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured against how many white men got away with it.That is …

(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries) Do not listen to people online who speak from comfort, not from experience. If someone has you questioning whether it’s …

Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other. Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics. It’s no accident that we’re pitted against one another: …

  Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control. On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, preferences, or cultural norms. But when …

When men try to crown one woman and crucify another based on looks, that’s not preference—it’s control wrapped in a compliment. That ain’t admiration. That’s a system.And baby, we were …

When we talk about Adriana Smith, especially online, we must remember: people around the world are entering this conversation from vastly different realities. In some countries, healthcare isn’t tied to …

People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. Well, one thing that powerful people do is maintain strict boundaries. The average person can’t access them. We are …