Surviving Daily

  You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Walking away? Hate.Choosing peace over performance? Hate. We’ve …

Let’s begin here:You are not required to play a role in someone else’s story just because they’ve written you into it.Not as the forgiving one.Not as the supportive and understanding …

“If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace” Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate. They don’t just go date …

Let’s tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors don’t.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More erasure. As someone who served for years as a court …

Let’s talk about the men who say: “I don’t get involved in drama.”“That’s between them.”“Not all men are like that.”“I’d never do that, but I’m not about to check another …

Fear-Based ManipulationDefinition: Using hypothetical threats or worst-case scenarios to control or limit a woman’s autonomy. It rarely sounds like outright abuse.More often, it sounds like “advice.”It sounds like “looking out.”It …

“Why are you still single?”“You need to lower your standards.”“You’re too picky.”“You’re too old/fat/educated to be asking for that.” We hear it over and over again.But let’s call it what …

There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it. We’re told:“If someone was really that bad, wouldn’t we know?”“If they …

When it comes to women and girls, invasion looks like: Forcing male presence into spaces where women go to breathe, to heal, to be safe without question. Overriding the will …

There’s a kind of allyship that shows up only when the lights are on.When there’s an audience.When speaking up will gain applause, followers, or favor. But where are these men …