Boundaries

When people are treated as if others “ought to have access” to them, it is a systematic denial of their right to remain inviolate. Here are some understandings and perspectives …

updated from April 2025 “We’re supposed to pretend that if we are “good girls,” a “good man” will find us and give us everything that we want. About money. About …

updated from June 9, 2025 Control doesn’t always disappear. Sometimes it evolves its language and waits for you to mistake it for freedom. Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get …

Malcolm X said : “A lie told once is questioned. A lie repeated often enough becomes accepted. And once it becomes ‘common sense,’ people stop investigating it. That is how …

You saw it too. I was watching clips from Jesse Jackson’s homegoing service. Then all of a sudden, people who openly despised this man and ALL that he stood for …

updated from November 5, 2022 “You know good and well that a boundary never did a damn thing to you. But a male has every potential to AND be excused …

updated from May 4 2025 They will call it selfish.They will call it rude.They will call it unnecessary.But you know better. Boundaries are not walls to keep people out.They are …

updated from July 11, 2025 — Especially When We’re Still Doing Most of the Work for Less Pay This piece honors the fact that women perform approximately 76.2% of total …

updated from March 2, 2025 Grooming is a word we hear often, yet misunderstanding still surrounds it. That confusion can lead to silence.It can feed shame.It can even shift blame …

Black women speaking about maternal death are not “race baiting.” This is a call-out of minimization, deflection, and tone policing when mothers and babies are dying. We can remind leaders …