Category: Domestic Violence
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”
updated from August 7 2025
Remember now, plenty of wives and children [...]
When He Stops Hiding the Harm, Start Protecting Your Life
When an abuser stops caring that people know, a restraint has fallen a [...]
If the Room Has Changed, Listen: A Safety Guide for Women Facing Abuse
When an abuser decides they no longer care that people know they are a [...]
Honoring Dr. Cerina Wanzer Fairfax in Virginia
Virginia will lower flags Monday to honor the life and legacy of Dr. C [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femic [...]
I Hit Him Back. The Survey Called It “Mutual Abuse.” Here’s Why That Logic Destroyed Me.
If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the "both sid [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those w [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the da [...]
I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woma [...]