Domestic Violence

updated from August 7 2025 Remember now, plenty of wives and children around the world are very nice to men who think nothing of harming them in an instant. As …

When an abuser stops caring that people know, a restraint has fallen away. Shame is no longer holding him back. Reputation is no longer enough to contain him. That can …

When an abuser decides they no longer care that people know they are abusive, the danger has changed. Shame is no longer restraining them. Reputation is no longer holding them …

Virginia will lower flags Monday to honor the life and legacy of Dr. Cerina Wanzer Fairfax.  It appears that Virginia will begin taking a long overdue look at outdated laws …

I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting “bidirectional violence” on dead women that they didn’t know. Only she …

If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the “both sides” playbook is used against you. You know what it is like to be pushed …

  updated from 2/5/25 I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago. I don’t think I will ever forget she and her daughter’s story. During a season …

“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from those who have endured ordinary injustice.” My pain does not require cross-examination to be real.My humanity is not pending approval. …

Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that. This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding the line—gets heavy. And yet, I am appreciative. …

There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a “good person” she must sacrifice her safety for men. Very much …