The year is 2026. Violence against women is being organized, taught, filmed, hidden, minimized, monetized, excused, and repeated while
The year is 2026.
- Violence against women is being organized, taught, filmed, hidden, minimized, monetized, excused, and repeated while society keeps pretending the grey zone is a neutral place.
- In February 2025, multiple reports said women prisoners in Goma were raped and then burned to death after a prison was set on fire during the chaos around the M23 takeover. The Guardian reported that hundreds of women were raped and burned alive after the womenâs wing of Munzenze prison was set on fire; other reports cited UN information saying more than 100 or more than 150 women were killed. Hundreds of women raped and burned to death after Goma prison set on fire | Global development | The Guardian
- Every day, women and girls are still being killed by intimate partners or family members.UN Women and UNODCâs 2025 femicide reporting found that gender-related killings continue with âno sign of real progress,â with women and girls most often killed by someone close to them, not a stranger in a dark alley.
- Nearly 1 in 3 women worldwide has experienced intimate partner violence or sexual violence. In 2025, the World Health Organization reported that an estimated 840 million women globally have experienced partner or sexual violence in their lifetime. WHO also noted that this figure has barely changed since 2000. That means the world has been talking for decades while the numbers have stayed brutal.
- UNODCâs 2024 Global Report found that women and girls remained the majority of detected trafficking victims worldwide, accounting for 61% of detected victims in 2022, with many women and girls trafficked for sexual exploitation. Reuters, summarizing the UNODC report, noted that detected trafficking victims rose 25% in 2022 compared with 2019, and that children made up 38% of detected victims. unodc.org/documents/data-and-analysis/glotip/2024/GLOTIP2024_BOOK.pdf?
- In the United States of America, terrified female prisoners are launching complaints about males harming them, and too few will talk above a whisper about it. Women and girls are assaulted by authorities and thank God, everyone has cameras now or very few would believe them.
- Guns make domestic violence far more lethal. Everytownâs research reports that one in three female firearm homicide victims in the U.S. were killed by a current or former intimate partner. A 2025 Everytown report also found that in intimate partner homicide-suicide incidents studied from 2014 to 2020, a firearm was the primary weapon in 85% of cases.
- Digital abuse is becoming part of girlsâ ordinary social environment. A 2026 Barnardoâs survey reported by The Guardian found that nearly 1 in 5 girls in the UK had received repeated unwanted images online, and many girls reported being pressured to share nude images.
- Womenâs safety keeps getting described as complicated while the lack of action remains simple. The facts point in the same direction: violence against women is common, girls are still being harmed, digital abuse is rising, domestic violence remains deadly, and many women punished by the criminal system have already survived violence before the state ever called them âoffenders.â
- Child sexual abuse is still a major safety crisis for girls. The CDC states that about 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 20 boys in the United States experiences child sexual abuse. The CDC also warns that these numbers are likely underestimates because many children do not report right away, or ever.
Women and girls are not only being harmed by isolated acts of violence.
They are being harmed by networks.
They are being harmed by silence.
They are being harmed by delay.
They are being harmed by platforms.
They are being harmed by institutions.
They are being harmed by people who keep saying, âItâs complicated,â while the danger keeps getting organized.
Debates about whether or not women and girls “deserve” safety are still happening in 2026……
Debates about whether or not women and girls “deserve” safety are still happening in 2026……
In 2026, we cannot keep talking about women and girlsâ safety as if the only problem is misunderstanding. We are seeing femicides. We are seeing trafficking. We are seeing girls harmed by adults who should have protected them. We are seeing online spaces where men share tactics for drugging and sexually assaulting women. We are seeing women prisoners raped during riots and burned when the systems holding them failed to protect them. We are seeing homes, prisons, platforms, families, faith spaces, schools, and institutions become places where danger is excused, hidden, or debated until it is too late. This is not a grey area. This is a pattern.
Some people call it ânuance.â
Some call it âhearing all sides.â
Some call it ânot rushing to judgment.â
But when endless debate leaves women and girls exposed, it is not wisdom. It is delay.
In this episode, we talk about the people and institutions that spend too much time camping in the grey area while women are told to doubt their feelings, soften their boundaries, question their instincts, and wait for protection that never comes.
Drawing from the parable Jesus tells in Matthew 21 about the two sons, we look at the difference between saying the right thing and doing the actual work. The son who sounded obedient did not go into the vineyard. The son who went did the will. That lesson still speaks.
A society does not get credit for saying it cares about women and girls while refusing to build guardrails. A community does not get credit for saying it believes Survivors while debating them out of their own warning signs.
A church, school, family, movement, or institution does not get credit for âdialogueâ when no safety plan follows. This teaching is for the women who have been told they were âoverreacting.â
For the girls whose discomfort was explained away.
For the Survivors who were asked to keep talking while danger kept walking free.
For the safe adults who are done confusing endless discussion with protection.
Grey areas require lanterns to see clearly.
Grey areas require guardrails to protect women and girls.
Grey areas require action.
Bring a plan.
Bring protection.
Bring the work.
But do not bring another debate and call it safety.
Womenâs safety is not a debate, and boundary blurring often begins when people use grey areas, âmaybeâ language, and endless discussion to talk women and girls out of trusting their own discomfort.
Nearly 1 in 3 women worldwide has experienced intimate partner violence or sexual violence. In 2025, the World Health Organization reported that an estimated 840 million women globally have experienced partner or sexual violence in their lifetime. WHO also noted that this figure has barely changed since 2000. That means the world has been talking for decades while the numbers have stayed brutal.
Debates about whether or not women and girls “deserve” safety are still happening in 2026…. as male violence against women and children continues to steal our safety and lives.
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Qasim Rashid, Esq: Women Are Not Safe Around Men – WESurviveAbuse
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