Category: Loving Safely

💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each o [...]

Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—an [...]

Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game: [...]

🔥 “You Said I Look Like a Man? Let’s Break That Down.”
Subjective Much?
“Looking like a man” is a subjective opinion, not a [...]

Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its sys [...]

Why Body Safety for Black Women Must Include Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Reproductive Justice: Honoring Adriana Smith
When we talk about Adriana Smith, especially online, we must remembe [...]

Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. We [...]

🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especi [...]

✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet. [...]

⚠️ Sometimes Male Agitation Is Not Just a “Bad Mood”
It Can Be a Ramp-Up to Violence. Especially Against the Vulnerable.
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