Manipulation

Some people judge Black women as if influence comes with a lifetime warranty on another person’s integrity… This is not a defense of Oprah specifically, but there’s a pattern here …

For generations, women have been told they were imagining “it.” You can fill in the blank for millions of untold “it” things. “If you speak up, you’re difficult.” “If you …

Nearly every fan of music has seen the Fugees Killing Me Softly Video. At the time, it was striking and ground-breaking. The song and the video. It was directed by Aswad …

Why won’t they say our names? In an era when nearly every issue has a spokesperson, why do so many women and girls feel unheard when it comes to their …

Much of today’s manipulation no longer looks openly threatening. It often arrives looking compassionate, progressive, emotionally intelligent, romantic, therapeutic, empowering, or inclusive. That doesn’t mean those things are manipulative. It …

So today we are in the state of Washington because their Department of Corrections has interesting policies that impact women. Language control determines which words institutions permit us to use, …

  updated from July 14 2025 This thing men do. “It’s actually those men that are the real danger.” “No, those are the men you really need to be afraid …

updated from June 2025 This history is not symbolic. It is specific, embodied, and carried forward through language. For many Black American women, forced renaming has never been a side …

Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make a scene.To forgive.To forget.To move on. So we did.We …