Manipulation

There’s something I’ve been thinking about whenever the conversation turns to restricting pornography. I understand wanting to protect children from pornography. Children deserve protection from sexual exploitation and exposure to …

I want to talk about something that deserves a little tenderness. Sometimes, when we talk about recognizing danger, the conversation can begin sounding as though people who have been abused …

Amongst Gen X, Boomers, and those blessed with more years, we have been having a conversation for a few years. About gender. When do we remember hearing that term first, …

There is something we need to pay closer attention to when people announce progress. Sometimes lawmakers and institutions expand the number of people included in a policy, and everybody celebrates. …

There is something deeply troubling about watching a documentary about murdered women and realizing how many of the dangers they faced extend far beyond the places where they worked.  Oxygen’s …

updated from February 8,  2024 When Did Women Lose the Right to Name Ourselves? Female erasure is hardly a new concept. For generations, societies have treated the birth of a …

updated from June 9, 2025 Please pay attention. If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary… That is …

Another book from my personal shelf… Some books stay with you long after you’ve finished reading them. Bastard Out of Carolina (1992) is one of those books. But I want …

When people discuss Jeffrey Marsalis, they often describe him as a “prolific rapist.” I don’t like that word because it doesn’t capture the full truth about criminals and harm. It …

It takes extraordinary arrogance to approach grown women as if we are strangers to our own existence. Something has been bothering me about the way some of our leaders discuss race …