RED FLAGS

Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety. But lately, women and Survivors are being told to prove our goodness by staying silent. To sacrifice our boundaries …

What is moral gaslighting? Moral gaslighting happens when women speak up for their own safety, and instead of being heard, they are shamed, discredited, or reframed as the villain. It’s …

We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in …

Let’s tell the truth:Most major social media platforms are not safe spaces for truth-tellers.Especially when that truth involves naming abuse, calling out violence, or standing with Survivors who have been …

Oppression is not only carried out with fists, laws, and locked doors.It is carried out with words. Words that erase.Words that confuse.Words that sanitize violence.Words that make it easier to …

Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong just for standing in your own power. You say no.You speak up.You leave.You choose peace.You protect yourself. …

In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind: 👉🏾 Victims have a right to safety. Not imagined safety.Not theoretical safety.Not “community-accountability-if-everyone-agrees” safety. …

(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves) Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, one moment of silence—to tell you who a person really …

Too many people overlook this. We want to believe that people are better than what they show us. But I urge you today:Listen—really listen—to people who empathize with abusive people. …

Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.For the ones grieving the loss of community, connection, or even family: You are not wrong for disconnecting from people who …