Relationships

updated from April 2025 “We’re supposed to pretend that if we are “good girls,” a “good man” will find us and give us everything that we want. About money. About …

updated from November 5, 2022 “You know good and well that a boundary never did a damn thing to you. But a male has every potential to AND be excused …

updated from January 20 2025 This week, I wish you success in distancing yourself from people who plant self-doubt in women and girls.  Many female Survivors from various backgrounds around …

“Equality and kindness” do not require or justify the abolition of women as a sex class or the abrogation/appropriation of women’s rights to private spaces, sports teams, etc. On the …

 updated from 2/2/ 2025   Without Black women, the miracles of  Black history would not be possible.      So much of who I am, I owe to the women …

  Something many people don’t understand The most dangerous time for a victim is often when they are trying to leave. This is true for adults.And it is especially true …

Most women, even if they are in a soft season now, do not have the luxury of choosing leaders like a child chooses entertainment for a birthday party. People living …

Truth is still in the business of setting people free. People often misunderstand what happens when a woman calls a domestic violence hotline or reaches out to an advocate. They …

updated from December 11 2025 Myth: Straight men are the only danger to women. **Shayla told me about the male relative she grew up with who was a danger to …

The thing about ‘female exams’ is that we have to make our bodies available to doctors, but we have no idea what they may be doing to our bodies.    …