Safe Boundaried Spaces

This is how the rest of us end up in therapy for yearssss. Dealing with people who run to console, protect, and shield grown sturdy men and not hurting and …

People who shut their eyes to reality simply invite their own destruction, and anyone who insists on remaining in a state of innocence long after that innocence is dead turns …

Domestic violence advocates have been here before. For decades, advocates fought a very specific lie.Not loudly at first.But relentlessly. The lie sounded like this: He’s a good father.He’s a provider.He’s …

Many entertainers are protected in our culture. They are called “artists.” They are called “talented.” They are called “important.” So when they harm children, or support people who harm children, …

When I was in college earning my degree in Organizational Management and Development, we were asked to give a presentation about early milestones in our lives that helped shape how …

When we say, “He objectified her,” we make it sound like mere casual disrespect. What really happens is extermination of recognition. She is not reduced to a sex object. She …

“Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make the accurate prediction, and then say that …

At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse. Complacency is an enemy to progress and …

Young people say: I don’t believe women and girls should have to be stronger. We ought to be fighting for a world that gives us all less to survive. I’m …

Femicide. We keep saying it. “We can’t bring her back, but justice was served.” We say it after the trial. After the sentencing. After the cameras leave. And every time, …