Safety

I have spent many years listening to women and girls describe things others expected them to accept. Things that hurt them. Things that frightened them. They were told these were necessary …

It isn’t hard for leaders to protect girls, but they have to act. To whom much is given, much is expected. We gotta start expecting more from leaders when it …

Content note: this post discusses strangulation, sexual violence, and domestic homicide. If it feels like everyone is suddenly talking about strangulation, it is not your imagination. Police departments are reporting …

  updated from April 4 2025 Generation X was not ready for this story, but we needed it! Our Boomer parents were not ready either, but they most definitely needed …

updated from June 9, 2025 Please pay attention. If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary… That is …

 They were in the kitchen. It was a small, minor disagreement, but he was frustrated and didn’t like her tone. He hit her. She was shocked; there was blood. That’s …

12 ways women are pressured, persuaded, and sometimes punished for refusing to organize their lives around men. Women are human beings in our own right. Yet across cultures, religions, families, …

If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking …

Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain in a society that struggles to respect women’s safety boundaries in the first place. So much of emotional abuse involves someone knowing what …

Why women’s refusal, independence, and desire for safety are so often treated as offenses against men. There is something deeply troubling about a man hearing a woman say no and …