Self Love

✨ You Hear It All the Time These Days: “Agency.” But What Does That Actually Mean? In conversations about trauma, healing, justice, and identity—we hear the word agency more and …

Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Mocked. Ignored.And that silence is not neutral—it’s violent. It …

Because you shouldn’t have to hold the whole world just to be loved, safe, or seen. 💬 For When You’re Exhausted from Holding It All Together: I am allowed to …

(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth) You’ve left the relationship.You’ve named what happened. Maybe you’ve even started to heal.But some days… the voice still creeps in: “You should’ve known.”“You …

The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down If you’ve ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red flags but stayed …

(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs) If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitting me,”—you’re not alone. For so many …

But What Happens When You Stop? The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truth—because you’ve been told your full presence makes people uncomfortable.So you soften your words, dim your …

Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first. Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees what happened,there is a quiet act of control: “Don’t …