updated March 27, 2025 You saw our hair. Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain. Just our hair. You formed opinions. You whispered. You rolled your eyes.But …
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It’s Not About Tradition, It’s About Freedom: The Power of Dropping a Name That No Longer Fits
Last names are deeply personal women who live through violence, abuse, or attack. It should remain that way. Personal. Even when she chooses to reveal some of her reasoning for …
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Alleged “Male Loneliness” is Causing Men to Come Up With Bizarre Ideas
Women, start flipping tables everywhere you go. How hard is it to just stop being violent and abusive? How difficult is it to finally recognize that women are human beings …
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The Truth From Pam and Aunt Esther: Naming the Disrespect Women Were Taught To Ignore
There are men who speak to women with deep disrespect — regularly. And we rarely show it honestly. Some folks will get offended if you joke about weight or relationships…but …
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You Don’t Get Grievance Without a Vacuum of Accountability
Grievance doesn’t grow in a vacuum. It grows where accountability is absent, deferred, or endlessly redirected. This is a profound distinction. You’re describing the difference between a wound that heals …
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When White Women Say “Misogyny Is Older,” What’s Really Happening
That move is often about re-centering. When Black women name race and gender together, the response isn’t just disagreement—it’s anxiety about losing narrative control. Saying “misogyny is older” becomes a …
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What Does a Feminism That Includes You Actually Require?
It requires wholeness, not performance. A feminism that includes Black women does not ask us to arrive as fragments—carefully edited, softened, or stripped of context. It does not demand that …
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What Happens When the People Stop Listening to Women
These stories are unsettling. I do hope that male podcasters, influencers, and journalists are covering these stories and not just waiting for the stories that advance misogyny, racism, and other …
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When Belonging Breaks: Surviving in Truth When Cultures Defends Abusers
I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I’ve slipped (more than once) and done it too. I’m a human. I still have a duty to push back …
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His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written. James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in Baltimore at the …