Rape

I was confused by my own exhaustion. I had spent years doing what some people think is the hardest part of advocacy. Helping women find shelter Securing funds for rent …

I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I’ve slipped (more than once) and done it too. I’m a human. I still have a duty to push back …

This isn’t about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons. Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who worked in minstrel …

There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deserves its own holiday. A woman stated …

There’s a strange thing happening in our world today—especially online—where people want to argue about the words we use instead of facing the truth behind them. Take the word “dominate.” …

People keep acting like a man’s sexual identity is a character reference. They say things like: “He likes women.”“He has a girlfriend.”“He wouldn’t do that.” As if attraction is a …

There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way. Because this seems to be a truth everybody sees but is afraid to …

This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. Some are in prison. Some are in bondage in some …

This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written. James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in Baltimore at the …

It’s wild how quickly the world silences women.The minute a woman says she’s uncomfortable, cautious, or afraid, people look at her like she’s exaggerating.Like she’s fragile.Like she’s imagining things. They …