Relationships

Some harms don’t happen in isolation. They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them. In law and policy, this …

He Did the Harm. They Held the Door. Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you. It’s the people who stay quiet. It’s the family who says,“Don’t bring that …

Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the Doubt We’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got to be twice as good for …

Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Survivors for over 30 years, …

The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down If you’ve ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red flags but stayed …

Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting himwhen he has shown he wouldn’t …

Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured against how many white men got away with it.That is …

(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries) Do not listen to people online who speak from comfort, not from experience. If someone has you questioning whether it’s …