Safe Boundaried Spaces

There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a “good person” she must sacrifice her safety for men. Very much …

They tell women: “If it was bad enough, you would have left.” That sounds like truth. You don’t have to be fooled, though. It isn’t. Leaving is not just effort. …

In our society we underestimate intuition in favor of logic. I like logic. I also like intuition and fact-based pattern recognition.   From Youtube summary: This animated summary explains how …

Let’s tell the truth today. The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent. It doesn’t matter if he’s a cop, a coach, a clergy member, a …

We push women into corners and out of safe spaces and then act surprised when they are not safe. People are often genuinely shocked when they learn this: Women in …

updated from June 28, 2024         Listen to this blog post here   There are moments when listening is not polite or optional. Listening can save a …

For years, people asked, “Why doesn’t she just leave?” That question is evaporating—not because we finally understand domestic violence, but because something far more sobering is happening: Where can she …

When people are treated as if others “ought to have access” to them, it is a systematic denial of their right to remain inviolate. Here are some understandings and perspectives …

updated from June 9, 2025 Control doesn’t always disappear. Sometimes it evolves its language and waits for you to mistake it for freedom. Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get …

updated from November 5, 2022 “You know good and well that a boundary never did a damn thing to you. But a male has every potential to AND be excused …