Self care

A man wanting access to a woman does not create a moral question for the woman. She can simply decline. At least we are getting closer to telling the truth …

updated from July 31, 2025 The Space Was Never the Argument. The Entitlement Was. Survivor Affirmation Every woman deserves a space that stays hers. Not conditional. Not negotiable. Not something …

Women did not struggle for generations to gain the right to choose only to discover that we are still expected to choose whatever keeps everybody else comfortable. Our piece on …

Before Claire Douglas became J.D. Salinger’s twenty-one-year-old wife, she was a Radcliffe student with writing of her own—short stories, plays and essays. Then, at Salinger’s request, she burned them. She …

Someone on X.com said these wise words: One of patriarchy’s hidden rules is that men have a right to feel good about themselves. The golden rule for women is that …

updated from March 24 2025   Interesting fact: Before his murders were discovered, serial killer Ted Bundy volunteered at a suicide crisis hotline in Seattle called the Seattle Crisis Clinic in 1971. The …

updated from June 3 2025 Let’s name this for what it is: When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressing concerns about our safety, they are …

Women have spent generations being told to sit back and relax while somebody else decided where the road was going. Some of us like to see the map.  Of course …

  updated from April 8 2025 Some lies don’t look like lies.They wear the clothing of “tradition,” “culture,” “love,” or “femininity.”But if you look closer, you’ll see the bruises they …

originally published in 2025 There is a dangerous lie being whispered and shouted in this world:That a woman is a feeling.That our existence—our lives, our flesh, our blood, our history—is …