Self Love

 updated from Sep 28, 2025  Survival is one type of strength. Healing is another. We heal the things we never should have had to survive in the first place.  Respect …

I have spent more than 30 years working with women and children who have experienced abuse. And one of the things that experience has taught me is that people are …

If someone can convince you that speaking about mistreatment is worse than the mistreatment itself, they have found a powerful way to protect those responsible. In 2017, when Chimamanda Ngozi …

Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain in a society that struggles to respect women’s safety boundaries in the first place. So much of emotional abuse involves someone knowing what …

Why women’s refusal, independence, and desire for safety are so often treated as offenses against men. There is something deeply troubling about a man hearing a woman say no and …

When a woman asks for safety, listen to the danger she is describing before you begin searching for something wrong with her character. We absolutely must reflect on how we …

There is something strange about repeatedly telling women and girls that they need to be kinder. Because when we look at what women and girls are already doing, we do …

updated from September 26 2025 Abusers call what they do to women and children by many names. They dress it up with lies, excuses, and false respectability. They label it …

Consent is not only the right to say yes. It is the freedom to say no without punishment, persuasion, or a campaign to change your mind. Consent is not only …

Who benefits when women are encouraged to understand their sexual boundaries as especially open to revision? Women have spent a great deal of history being told that their own sexual …