Violation

There is a name for what happens when Black women are pressured to abandon our Blackness in order to be accepted as “real” women. Racial Gatekeeping of Womanhood. It shows …

I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I’ve slipped (more than once) and done it too. I’m a human. I still have a duty to push back …

This isn’t about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons. Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who worked in minstrel …

There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deserves its own holiday. A woman stated …

Pain hurts in a way that words fail. Pain doesn’t announce itself politely.It arrives like weather—uninvited, undeniable, and immune to reason. Pain is a shadow you can’t outrun,a ghost that …

There’s a strange thing happening in our world today—especially online—where people want to argue about the words we use instead of facing the truth behind them. Take the word “dominate.” …

This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. Some are in prison. Some are in bondage in some …

This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written. James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in Baltimore at the …

There’s a phrase people love to say when conversations get uncomfortable: “I don’t see gender, race, sexuality, or identity. I treat everyone the same.” It sounds enlightened. It sounds fair. …

The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. A wealthy man is …