Abuse of Power

There’s a difference between choosing courtesy and being forced into compelled speech. Courtesy is voluntary. It’s when you call someone “Liz” instead of Elizabeth, or when you say “Your Honor” …

Access to women’s private spaces is not a matter of “human rights”. Access to women’s private spaces is a matter of women’s rights. As soon as we say that access …

For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they want. If you like it, I love it—so long as it …

Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reverse blaming. Survivors are shamed for naming the truth, while those …

She told a friend once: “The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.” Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just upset.” But she remembered …

One of the realities of working with women trying to get away from an abusive relationship is the difficult work that must be done long after the break up, the …

In my early 30’s I realized that I had three female conditions brewing inside me. And they had been there for a long time. In spite of me getting regular …

💡 Pattern to Notice: Most of these women were killed not just for themselves but because they stood between power and the vulnerable—protecting miners, children, Black voters, Indigenous rights, or …

It isn’t enough to expose the myths about unkind men pretending to be protectors. Survivors, women, and communities also need to know what real protection looks like. Protection isn’t about …

Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to repeat the pattern—because abuse is …