Body safety

Someone is telling on themselves……. In Jim Crow America, Black people—especially Black women and girls—were forbidden from having boundaries: A Black woman couldn’t say no to a white man’s advances …

updated from June 22, 2025 Nina Simone’s song, “Four Women,” is powerful because each woman has been made into someone else’s story. Aunt Sarah is expected to carry pain. Saffronia …

I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting “bidirectional violence” on dead women that they didn’t know. Only she …

DARVO is a pattern some harmful people use when they are confronted. It stands for: DenyThey deny what happened. AttackThey attack the person who spoke up. Reverse Victim and OffenderThey …

Have you ever had a feeling about someone and talked yourself out of it? Not because nothing happened. But because you could not explain it cleanly yet. Maybe they were …

If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the “both sides” playbook is used against you. You know what it is like to be pushed …

Updated from October 25, 2025 “Oppression evolves. It trades the whip for the weary.” — WeSurviveAbuse.com When people stonewall you, they aren’t just ignoring you; they’re blocking movement. That’s deliberate. …

There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a “good person” she must sacrifice her safety for men. Very much …

He killed her. Murdered her. Left the broken pieces for their children to pick up for the rest of their lives. And people still asked about his mental health. No …

A locked door matters more than a long explanation. If a woman has to bargain, soften her voice, calculate moods, or time her movements just to stay unharmed, that is …